H igh school can be difficult - new school, new classes, new teachers, new classmates, and even new friends. Things can feel daunting and yet exciting at the same time, with everything being both new and different.
Making new friends can seem intimidating, but with these helpful tips, you’ll make friends aplenty!
You don’t have to dress to impress, but do try to be presentable. By making the effort to look clean and put together, you’re showing people you care about yourself.
Personally, I find basic hygiene to be very attractive. A++ for taking showers, wearing deodorant, pressed clothes, clean teeth, and of course smelling nice! All these things will increase your attractiveness and as attraction increases, so do inputs of energy around you!
According to Popularity Explained, attraction only drives the popularity line in the “Three Factor Model”. Liking and disliking is based on how you treat others.
Your behaviour towards others will affect their perception of you as a person and thus their image of you in their minds. Be kind so that even if they don’t like you, they have a positive image of you in their head.
Also, remember to be inclusive of others. Appearances are not everything, and you never really know someone until you get to know them. You have nothing to lose from saying “hello” or greeting people with a smile!
High school is supposed to be the best four years of your life! Don’t waste it by doing nothing. Learn to play a new instrument and join a band or try out for a sports team! There are dozens of clubs and extracurriculars to experiment with!
You might learn something new about yourself or discovers another part about you that you didn’t know before. And, it doesn’t hurt that you’ll be able to meet a ton of new people!
Different people find different things attractive, so explore different opportunities to find out what makes you happy and attractive.
Remember: similar interests spark proximity, which in turn leads to more interactions and potentially friendship!
This one might be tricky. But don’t get involved in other people’s drama if it doesn’t affect you. Know when to speak up and when to stay out.
There’s a ton of research out there that shows that confidence is extremely attractive.
Simply put, confident people are attractive, and attractiveness draws people to you. Speak up, show leadership, and don’t be afraid to make the first move to talk to someone!
That being said, don’t be overconfident or bossy either, no one wants that.
You want people to like you for you, so learn to be yourself in order to attract other like-minded people with similar interests.
If they don’t like you for you, the chances are that friendship isn’t worth the effort.
Most importantly, remember to LOVE YOURSELF and stay true to who you are as a person. If you aren’t sure of yourself, high school is a great time to learn more about you.
Popularity is a result of different situations and different people’s perceived thoughts about you. Everyone acts differently depending on where they are and who they’re with. It’s best to find out what you like and surround yourself with like-minded individuals, so that you have things to talk about.
At the end of the day, you can’t make people like you; you just have to be yourself. Pretending to be someone you aren’t won’t make you happy.