This article was written by our highschool contributor who surveyed her acquaintances and family to support the writing of this piece. It is a commentary article. Considering the limited sample size, the conclusions of this article represent the authors access and availability to respondents. This article should be read with that in mind.
A ccording to popular media and movies, men are attracted to pretty and popular girls. As the stereotype goes, the popular and handsome guy always goes for the popular and pretty girl. This stereotype is played out widely in most popular media but does it really reflect what men find attractive in 2019?
All people have different attributes that come together to form their physical persona. These physical attributes can make a person seem attractive (or not) to others. What I plan on uncovering is what personality characteristics do men find attractive and is there a common trend between the men I surveyed or does it differ between age groups?
I’m working under the assumption that people will naturally choose someone kind and respectful as a partner as no one wants to be mistreated. But I want to dig deeper to see what men initially look for and how they deem a partner as attractive. To get some answers, I’ve asked four straight males from various age groups to answer some questions and see what conclusions or themes I can draw from them.
I asked this question because I really wanted to understand the initial reaction men had when they first interacted with a woman. What they told me, really surprised me!
To my surprise, the eyes seem to be a hit! When i think about it makes sense, I mean, we tend to make eye contact and then determine if we’re going to smile, wink, or look away.
I wanted to dig deeper to see what my respondents had to say about looks vs. personality. Let’s see what they said!
Wow, it’s really interesting to me that all four of my respondents said the same thing. I wonder if their responses would change if a man asking the question? That’s another article in-and-of-itself!
I wanted to understand the role personality types play in attraction. Do people value other similar to themselves or different?
It seems like the personality of the men in question determines the personality type they find compatible. This interesting insight reveals that, as we would expect, beauty (or compatibility) is in the eye of the beholder!
This is the big question that everyone wants answered! What matters when it really comes down to it: the physical attributes or the intellectual connection?
The results are in: having a strong intellectual connection is valued most by my respondents. I wonder if the same would be true if I had asked women.
The purpose of this question was to get at what the limits of attraction might be for my interviewees. What really is a dealbreaker?
Honesty, morality, hygiene--I think these responses make sense but I’m a little surprised my respondents didn’t mention how their potential partner treats others.
What a tough question! My respondents answered really quickly. They must be fairly certain about what they have in mind.
They seem to all have one thing in common: someone who shares my interests, near my age. Do opposites ever attract? Stay tuned!
Strength and emotions are a tricky topic: sometimes the strongest emotions give us considerable strength. But let’s see what they said!
A mix of very interesting responses! I think we can all relate to the idea of needing someone to share our emotions with while balancing the need for a strong partner.
This is an age-old question that really cuts to the heart of the idea that commonalities, shared interests, values, and beliefs can have a profound impact on what is most important in a partner. Are looks everything? I think we have to say, nah.
Overall, it’s evident that these men value personality and compatibility. We’re they telling me what I wanted to hear? I can’t be certain. What I can say is that contrary to both popular belief and what the mass media represents, being pretty and popular isn’t always as important as we might think it is. Being pretty or popular can only get you so far in life and after high school, no one cares about if you were popular or not. People value how you treat others and your individual personality and interests.
A fter conducting these interviews I’ve learned that for many people, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and can vary by age and personal interest. Based on these conversations I have found some common trends in what some men find attractive.
Compatibility (similarity, agreeable)
Confidence (emotionally strong, independant)
Original (unique personality, passionate)
Conscientiousness (organized, reliable)
What do you think? Would you agree?