The 8 Rules of Popularity
Anywhere there are people, there is popularity: at work, at home, and even in retirement. No matter which group of people you analyze, the same 8 rules determine who is popular. These rules are not dependent on high school. These rules are not dependent on generation. These rules are not dependent on culture. These rules depend only on human nature which is why you can find them everywhere there are people.
To see proof and examples of each rule, click the numbers below.
The rules have no authors. They just are.
Advantages Make People Want You
Life is not fair: some people have many advantages. Some people have very few. Some advantages you can control and earn. Other advantages happen only because you get lucky. When you have advantages, people want you or what you have.
Special Attention Happens When You Want Someone
You automatically show Special Attention to somebody if you want them or what they have. There are many different types of Special Attention: doing favors; obsessing; getting close; calling; texting; gifting; tone of voice; body language; etc…
“Liking” Is Not “Wanting”
You can want someone and be attracted to them without liking them. You can like somebody without being attracted to them or wanting them. Attraction is about wanting and this makes you show Special Attention but liking someone does not.
Liking Is About How You Treat Others
Unlike popularity (which happens because of how people treat you), being liked is about how you treat other people. How you make people feel when they’re around you.
Who You Are With Changes Popularity
In some groups, everybody will want you or what you have — in this group you will be popular. In a different group, nobody might want you or what you have — in this group you will not be popular even if YOU are exactly the same.